Journals of Lord Malinov

the poetry of madness

same as it ever was

Last night, the eX asked me to switch weekends, so I would have the kids next weekend instead of tonight.  I asked me daughter if it was something that benefited her and the boys.  Her reply let me know that the eX had pressured her to encourage my acceptance. 

She wanted me to take the kids next weekend because of a medical procedure.  I told her I would be delighted to have the kids next weekend.  I told her that I had made plans (to celebrate a long overdue-Christmas with my sister).  No one gave me a reason why I should change my plans.  I had absolutely no desire to disappoint the boys, who were very keen on coming over.

So she pulled out the decree and forced the switch.  Que sera.  We had switched for her convenience anyway.  There is no substantial advantage to either pair of weekends. 

Now I have an unplanned weekend before me.  Whatever shall we do?

Enjoy,

M

posted by: Malinov at 15:54 | link | comments (4) |

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#1  30 January 2006 - 10:07

 

I hope you managed to have a good weekend...

Mine was relatively uneventful but great nonetheless.

solyluna

#2  01 February 2006 - 13:19

 

at one point early on after our divorce, my ex wanted to change weekends, permanently. She wanted her weekends to be aligned were her new boyfriend's weekends with his kid.

I declined the offer. A few weeks later, her boyfriend went back to his wife.

It happened again at xmas time. She wanted to swap xmas weekend with new years, and keep the schedule changed.

I figured it was so that she could have New Years sans kids. I declined. I've looked ahead and see that the current weekend schedule is to my benefit, with kids birthdays and other holidays.

Unfortunately for her, she has no decree.

indigo4963

#3  01 February 2006 - 14:27

 

Always think about what's best for the kids. And write it down so you have a record of what's going on.

Since your eX sounds a little... uh... flighty, neurotic, screwy.... maybe you should think about a list of things you can do on short notice, for contingencies like this.

I assume the goal is to a)not come off as the bastard who won't let mommy go to the doctor and b) not bore the kids out of their little minds?

SianNorah

#4  11 February 2006 - 10:12

 

with fifteen years of training, I am uniquely qualified to deal with my eXs impulsive schedule changes - the kids, for me, are the only point and I have earned several sainthoods in my measured restraint - would someone notify the Pope? I'd do it myself, but that might seem a little immodest.

Thursday, when the kids complained about our lack of time together, I told them I was afraid the time had come to take the issue back to court. All three readily agreed. My move.

M

Malinov

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