Journals of Lord Malinov

the poetry of madness

work

 Hard work won't save a bad relationship.  A good relationship can't survive without hard work.

It isn't something lacking that requires couples to exert effort to remain together - it is entropy, the constant struggle against time and gravity.  Problems naturally arise and unless we become vigilant in opposing those forces by enforcing and reinforcing our connection, the problems erode our relationship.

People who deny a condition are typically the ones who suffer worst from it.  Denial is an incredibly powerful element of human nature.

Relaxation works the same way - we are never done relaxing because every single breath introduces a degree of tension that must be relaxed. 

Malinov

posted by: Malinov at 11:45 | link | comments (2) |

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#1  14 July 2005 - 14:14

 

the question is how do you determine whether you are going through bad times, or whether it's a bad relationship and it will never get better.

dominick

#2  14 July 2005 - 17:35

 

i don't think entropy has much to do with it. quite simply it is the dynamics that you set up with the other person that need to be constantly dealt with. the subconscious deals that you make with your partner can lead to disaster unless you recognize, examine and deal with them. that's hard work. i agree with you there.

howard

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